This weekend I had the pleasure of attending Winter Heat with some of the guys and gals from work, their partners and some other friends. We have some new starters over at Izilla, so this turned out to be a great opportunity to hang out with some of them and enjoy the great weather, great atmosphere and weird music.
Following that, some of the guys invited me to go down to a local pub to watch some of their friends perform in a band.
My friends expansively declared that “everyone agrees it is the best pub in Newcastle” – I thought I should probably give it a try.
Best. Decision. Ever.
The Lass O’Gowrie is a small sort of pub in the somewhat deserted area of Wickham, near the railway tracks. It is the haunt of the young and the artistic – the goths, the hippies, the art and music students. The beer garden was awash with a wonderful mix of dreadlocks and natural fibres, 50s dresses, suits, an occasional top hat, and at least one lycra outfit. There were a lot of young people, but more older faces than I expected too.
It was a really great night – the Sunny Mechanic was teh awethome (whassup Tommie B!), as was the band before them (Grandmaster Monk); the company was good, and I had the opportunity to meet a whole bunch of interesting new people (and observe a whole bunch more).
The coolest thing about the Lass O’Gowrie is the friendliness. I was warmly welcomed into any group I was introduced to, even during the occasional times my hosts absent mindedly wandered off (hehehe). In fact, I would go so far as to say that I could have seated myself at any table in that place and been accepted into the conversation without an issue.
The other great thing is that I can’t recall a single negative word being said during the whole evening, at least from the people near me. There was also no aggression, no brawls, no drunken yells or anything like that. Just a bunch of people either chatting, dancing, or chilling out listening to the music.
Be not mistaken, there was alcohol at this venue – I’m certain that many people were very drunk, but unlike other establishments, this didn’t prompt an incident. These guys are pretty happy drunks – well, this weekend anyway
I saw so much of this friendliess – my friend stopping mid sentence to step over to offer to light the cigarette of a complete stranger whose lighter was out of fluid; a box of cigarettes put out on the table for all to share, even though many at the table were strangers; one of the guys being introduced to a newcomer and not more than half an hour later having such a conversation with them that anyone less informed would think they had known each other years.
My friend Amos (somewhat to my dismay
) had mentioned me to some of his friends before we arrived – my introductions were frequently followed by “Oh, you’re the one who plays the fiddle, aren’t you? Cool!”. I think I also got invited to join a band somewhere in there, lol. I imagine that plan may fall through when they hear how bad I am
It was a pleasant change to actually be in a place where you can be the way you want, where no one will mind too much who you are, what you wear or what you do with your time, as long as you can relax and enjoy the vibe. I know everyone always says that, but so many times I have been at social occasions where much of the conversation has revolved around negative topics such as “OMG what is she wearing? Hahaha”; “I can’t believe he said that, urgh, I wish he’d get a life”; “That guy? He is such a dickhead – if he says one more thing to me he’ll find my fist in his face”.
I realised that much of my “mainstream” socialising (at least in my experience) is limited by the need to conform (fashion, thought, humour, interests, pastimes) – some parts of society are losing the confidence to be who we want to be; we’re losing the trust in others to love us for who we are, even if that is a bit weird or crazy or “not cool”; and finally we’re losing the love: respect for others, common humanity, the comradeship resulting from enjoying the same music together.
A long time ago a good friend told me that I think a lot of “big thoughts” – I dwell on questions about life, purpose, meaning, the future. This weekend has given me a lot more to think about. I’m sure these thoughts will evolve in the next few months as I meet more people from the Lass O’Gowrie, make some music with them, and start to erase the social conditioning established by years in conservative company.
I am looking toward the future, interested to see what is ahead. What can I learn? What new friends are around the next bend?